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What is the best way to stay in love with your spouse?


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ar.colton profile image94

ar.colton says

Keep dating each other. Talk about everything. Spend time apart doing things you love.

And #1 Always remind yourself how grateful you are that you get to spend the rest of your life with this person.

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dashingscorpio profile image90

dashingscorpio says

I believe we fall in love based upon (who the person is) and what they represent. In other words if they weren't who they were we probably would not have fallen for them. By the same token we are constantly growing and evolving which means our needs or desires change over time. The perfect mate for you at age 21 may not be the type of person you want to be with at 41. Change is the one certainty in life.

Ultimately love remains when both people continue to want the same things at the same pace. We're either growing together or growing apart. Communication helps to determine whether or not a couple wants the same things or have the same priorities. The rest of it comes down to making the effort to keep romance and passion alive. Again it can't be done by one person alone. Both people have to want it.

Too many of us follow the practice of treating "the new" better than "the tried & true". We bend over backwards to "impress" each other in the beginning of a new relationship. After there is an emotional investment or commitment we reveal our "authentic self". It's not uncommon to hear someone say, "He or She is not the same person I fell in love with". I wrote about this backwards approach to love awhile back.

http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/relationshi

"It's easier to maintain a fire than it is to reignite a spark!"

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xethonxq profile image80

xethonxq says

Focus on what makes you happy and excited about this person. Realize that you also contribute the spark in the relationship.

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mattdigiulio profile image83

mattdigiulio says

Great question. Is your spouse one of, or the only, person in your life who is completely not judgmental of you? To me, that's enough to love.

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Bella Nina profile image81

Bella Nina says

Talk to them. Regularly. Openly.

Consider how your life would be if you lost them. Then think about all of the things about them which would become priceless to you. Then treasure them for those things now. While you have them.

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Author Cheryl profile image82

Author Cheryl says

Keep the romance going, keep the lines of communication open, always have a date night, remember to always say I love you, and hold them dear to your heart always. If you have a wonderful spouse you shouldnt have to do anything but keep doing what you are already doing.

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one2recognize2 profile image90

one2recognize2 says

Keep the fire going. Never stop making time for just the two of you. Keep the communication going, and feel free to talk about everything, and even if you disagree enjoy each moment shared, and never ever go to bed angry.

Encourage time away with friends on both parts and It is also recommended to support each others hopes and desires. Insure that fire remains lit in the bedroom by experimenting and trying different things, plus stay as playful and attentive as you started out and you shall never lose the love you share as it will only get stronger.

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reeltaulk says

Can't anyone tell you that. Are you serious with this question.

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seojoint profile image66

seojoint says

To love her or him more than yesterday !! :)

 |  (+1)  |  3 months ago  |  Comment
msorensson profile image90

msorensson says

I would hope that you don't have to do anything because when you wake up with that person every day you are grateful that you can touch each other..but that is just me..

 |  (+1 / -1)  |  3 months ago  |  Comment

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